“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.” ―Brené Brown
We come by our resistance to vulnerability naturally – I mean, Webster defines vulnerable as “that can be wounded, injured, hurt, attacked” – even working and acceptable synonyms are ‘exposed and weak’. Is it any wonder then that the thought of showing vulnerability is the last thing you’re willing to do?
Yet that is exactly what I’m inviting you to take on. First, it starts with a shift in paradigm about vulnerability and realizing it’s worth owning vulnerability from a position of strength. It’s about moving from a place of letting our ego and fear be in control, to really developing an amazing connection with people (publicly and privately). With vulnerability come relatedness and connection.
Allowing yourself vulnerability is allowing to be seen – as human, flawed, approachable, warm, relaxed, self-aware. It takes a vulnerably strong person to say “I messed up”, “I was afraid”, or “I need help”. The trust meter instantly goes up, as does the willingness for others to be vulnerable.
It takes strength to show your heart. As John C. Maxwell says “Effective leaders know that you first have to touch people’s hearts before you ask them for a hand. Remember, people don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care”. Authenticity, humility and vulnerability always win over perfectionism, defensiveness and arrogance.
Don’t ever underestimate the importance of building relational bridges between yourself and the people you lead. There’s an old saying: To lead yourself, use your head; to lead others, use your heart. Vulnerability is the only bridge to build connection.
“What happens when people open their hearts?”
“They get better.” ― Haruki Murakami
Out of your vulnerabilities will come your strength – Sigmund Freud
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~ Victoria Raymont